If a guy is real interested in you, why would he still be looking at other girls on the internet dating sites?
Mon, Nov 10, 2008
kelly825782003 asked:
I’ve been seeing this guy for about 1 1/2 months. I think we have a good connection and great chemistry- good conversations, same interests, go places, attracted to one another, and he is very affectionate with me. But I see that he is still active on the dating site we met on. Would this mean he is still keeping options open? Looking out of curiosity or boredom? Or is just with me until he finds someone better on there?
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November 13th, 2008 at 3:22 am
If he is still active on the dating site you two met at it’s pretty obvious he is still looking.
November 14th, 2008 at 10:23 am
Do you want him to fall for you.
If you are interesting he won’t look for another women.
make him your’s before he finds another and leaves you
November 16th, 2008 at 9:23 am
Maybe he has a contingency plan because you have one – you’re at the same site. Maybe he wants someone better. Maybe he doesn’t know yall are exclusive. In any event, I would be cautious about addressing him directly or you’ll look like a stalker and run him off.
To the married woman, just because he’s honest about going there doesn’t mean he won’t cheat.
November 21st, 2008 at 10:34 am
To see if he can get better than what he has. I asked myself that question too after I met some one off of match.com.
November 23rd, 2008 at 8:54 pm
yea hes still looking! but how do u no hes still active on the site? u would have 2 have been on the site 2!
November 26th, 2008 at 5:40 pm
I think it is keeping his options open. I myself would not do that because I think it is rude, but that’s just me. I would advise you not to get to attached to this guy until you see which way your relationship is going. He does spend a lot of time with you right? I mean he does not have time when he could be seeing someone else? I am just saying be careful and best of luck, who knows why people do some of the things they do.
November 29th, 2008 at 5:40 pm
He’s makin a Contingancy plan. or a backup plan. If he slips dnt hesitate to drop his ass and find a better person.
December 3rd, 2008 at 1:26 am
If he is still i guess you would say “Active” on the dating site he is keeping his options open. Maybe he’s looking for more than one partner, maybe he is just not feeling the connection you are. Talk to him about it and ask him what’s in his head honestly, and how you and him are connecting. And go from there. But don’t get too connecting to someone you have only been with for a month and a half.
December 3rd, 2008 at 12:45 pm
He probably doesn’t feel that he is commited to you enough. I don’t know if he is actively looking for a better one to replace anyone but that’s how internet dating works I am sure…good and bad.
December 4th, 2008 at 1:51 pm
I am also in the same situation. My boyfriend gave me his password for his yahoo mail and I saw his membership in differnet dating sites. I logged in to them, only to find out that he uploaded a photo which I, myself, took after I said yes to become his girlfriend.
The thing is, he’s working on my fiancee visa to move me to the US so I don’t understand why he’s still active on those sites. Without listening to one’s heart, your mind will tell you that he’s just with you until he finds a better person. I feel the pain. I hope breaking up with him can be so easy to do.
December 7th, 2008 at 2:50 am
He is still looking. Ask him how he thinks he can improve on perfection.
December 8th, 2008 at 6:20 am
There’re many things a guy can benefit from at dating sites. On the positive side, he may be looking for the best way to make his relationship with u very romantic. He may not be there necessarily to search for another girl. Whatever, since u say u have great chemistry, conversation, interest etc, this is a topic which u two must take up soon. May be u two will together become active on the dating sites, which may even make ur relationship more romantic. So keep him company everywhere including at the dating sites.
December 8th, 2008 at 11:33 am
I have been married to my husband for almost two years, and he was signed up for every dateing and single sites out there. In fact he STILL goes to them. I don’t think it’s that he is looking elsewhere for a girlfriend. I honestly think that men don’t think before they act. My husband KNOWS I hate it when he goes to those sites, yet he still goes. I think its a complusion that they cannot control. If you feel that uncomfortable about it, maybe sit down and bring it up to him. Tell him that you noticed that he is still active on them, and you were curious as to why. Ask him if he is serious about your relationship, and where he stands. Hopefully your boyfriend is more cooperative with you than my husband. And I wish you the best with this one, there really is no easy answer to this kind of problem, I think its a problem all men have.
December 9th, 2008 at 9:23 pm
There are many different stages of relationships. Make sure your both on the same page here. Your almost sounding like you are going steady and have expectations of him not seeing anybody else. I don’t know where your at or him but you both need to know where each other is so no one gets hurt.
November 22nd, 2009 at 6:38 am
Isn’t that what people are on a dating site for? To meet someone they can connect with? It takes time, and 1 1/2 months is very little time to simply shut off the rest of the world. What you should be doing is recognizing that maybe you are too willing to close off all of your options. I would encourage you to continue to meet others, develop relationships (they need not be sexual), but staying in touch with others will be a positive. You’ll exude confidence knowing that you have other options available. Until two people make a committment that they are exclusive, keeping options open doesn’t equate to “not interested”, it is just simply recognizing that you’re taking time to get to know who may be that perfect fit for you.
January 4th, 2010 at 10:44 am
I feel that smiley has provided the most insite and is totally on point. After a 1 1/2 months of dating, you should keep you options open too. It’s amazing how fast things can crumble, even when they appear to be going so well. I have in the past put all my eggs in one basket to soon. Good luck!
January 17th, 2010 at 3:45 pm
Tyfeny!! That’s so wierd about your husband!!! Why does he do this??? Have you asked him??? Anyway, I have the same problem…i met this guy on a dating website and things between us are quite serious…he even said he feels chemistry and a connection with me. He has introduced me to just about everybody important to him…friends, family, had lunch at his parents house on new years day, but yet he is still active on the dating website?? After he removed his photo i thought he was getting ready to leave altogether, but nooooo, the fool still goes on it!! But then when he’s with me he acts like i’m the only person in the room and stares at me like he’s in love big time! Why are men wierd?? Don’t worry, i’m gonna ask him why he still goes on without no picture, i mean what was the point of removing it??